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“Men Don’t Like High Achieving/Earning Women” Is Not True

Many of my clients are high achieving and high earning people.  While males in this situation consider it an obvious benefit on the dating market to be perceived as having a high powered job and disposable income, my female clients in this situation often fear that it will be held …

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Faking Orgasms Is A Good Way To Ruin Your Relationship

Many women think that faking orgasms, or telling their husband they enjoyed sex when they didn’t, is a good way to make him happy and doesn’t hurt anyone.  This is extremely wrong.  Every lie about your sexual satisfaction, needs, preferences, or experiences is another nail in the coffin of your …

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4 Things Men Look For In Women Post-Divorce

After reading this post on how women like more sensitive men after divorce, a reader asked how men’s priorities and preferences change when they are looking for partners post-divorce.  Comparing my clients before/during their first marriage and after divorce/in their second marriage, I have observed a few key ways that …

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Vulnerability Is Another Word For Confidence, And Women Love It

Most men believe that women want James Bond: an effortlessly cool, calm and collected man whose confidence is surpassed only by his love of danger.  Women want no such thing. First, most women aren’t really into danger, because evolutionarily they don’t want the potential father of their children to die …

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Nobody Should Settle For A Passionless Relationship Post-Divorce And Here’s Why

Many people are insecure about dating after divorce.  They feel like they will have to settle in many ways and are prepping themselves to moderate their expectations so they aren’t disappointed.  I completely disagree with this mindset.  While you may have had real-world, evolutionarily-mediated reasons for your first marriage, e.g., …

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How To Find A Great Partner On Dating Apps After Divorce

Reader Divorced Mom writes, I have read in your blog where you encourage people to think about dating apps and that you found success this way.  Could you give some guidance on how to navigate dating on apps?  From how much to disclose in profiles to how many dates you …

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Jealousy Is Not Always Bad

Jealousy gets a bad rap nowadays.  Everyone is supposed to have evolved past jealousy, and what was once considered a normal and understandable feeling/behavior is now considered toxic.  Certainly, toxic jealousy that is part of an abusive and controlling dynamic is unfailingly negative, like in this case.  But jealousy that …

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I’m a 30 Year Old Virgin, How Do I Know If Sex Will Be Good When I’m Married?

Reader Waiting For Marriage writes, After years of following (read, lurking on) your page and having read through pretty much all of your blog posts, I have a question that I would love to be answered if you have the time. I read your post on low-libido women and how …

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Men: Here Are 9 Things That Women Really Think About All Day

Most of my work with male clients surrounds helping them have more fulfilling relationships with their wives.  If they are single, a lot of the reason they come into therapy is to figure out how to get into a fulfilling relationship and why this has eluded them so far.  Having …

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Men Need To Think Their Wife Is Really Hot For Things To Work

As any follower of this blog knows, I am big into evolutionary and biological explanations for male-female interactions, even if these are not very politically correct.  One thing I have learned over many years of working with couples is that a man being very attracted to his wife can help …

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